Curare-to take care. It’s a shame we don’t come with instructions or warning labels as people, it would make interacting with one another so much easier. So since we don’t here’s a very simple rule to live by- handle with care. You know you can relate to wanting to know exactly what someone is thinking when they say something atroscious- hopefully they weren’t thinking. Every single day you make decisions subconsciously on what you say and more importantly- HOW you say it. Choose wisely- your choice is brief and yet endless. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Let people know where you stand. But please remember to be gentle. It is very easy to take out your frustrations on the people you love the most without meaning to. Because if you are normal, you get tired and cranky and maybe even angry sometimes. You want so badly for them to see it your way that you completely discredit where he/she is coming from- their entire mindset, background, upbringing and personality. You forget to consider their “story” and the paradigm through which they interpret what you say and mean.
People have hearts and feelings and in our most fragile states as infants and seniors we needed or will need others to care for us- so why do we not expect the same for the greatest portion of our lives? Take care of yourself and expect that others will treat you similarly. Teach them how by giving them your best. It’s amazing how one smile leads to another or a compliment can turn someone’s entire day around. If you don’t realize the kind of impact you have consider this- “to the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world”. Sometimes we aren’t privy to this kind of information. You may never know how much you mean to someone if they aren’t able to express it. Give them permission. Say you’re sorry when you are, say I love you when you do, as often as you can. Choose wisely. Handle with care. Curare